Traveling is a good chance for couples to find out whether seeing the world brings them closer, or leads them to book the next flight home, alone. Most of the time, travel makes it easier to identify and confront incompatibilities that might take years to surface at home. After vacation, couples get a chance to make a better decision regarding their relationship. Should they stay together or split? Are they soul mates, or just best mates.
Most couples often dream that two weeks in the sun on a Turkish beach will resolve all the problems, but they rarely do. They often say that they went on vacation because they wanted to find themselves. But the real questions couples should ask are: “Why are we going? What are we really getting away from? Is it work, or is it between us?” Some people aren’t always honest about this.
According to some experts, people should ask what their expectations of this trip are. What are they hoping for? How do they cope when things go wrong? They are the same expectations that one should go into a marriage. Often, all the problem things you left behind you are still there when you get back.
There’s a sense in which a trip around the world can act as a proxy form of relationship therapy, catalyzing the negative dynamics of a relationship into resolution. Some discover their partners to be different people when removed from their native context; others find it is they who have changed. The emotional terrain of a relationship can alter with every border crossed, like meeting the other’s parents or moving in together. Traveling has become another stringent test in the process of finding a partner.
More than anything traveling puts couples in a situation where they find out the substance of the relationship. Many people realize that they haven’t got what they want, and split up.